Self-Esteem

Are you struggling to break free from anxiety, self-doubt or critical thoughts about yourself? We often are our worst and these thoughts can really impact how we feel about yourselves and how we show up in relationships. When the stories we tell ourselves are negative and limiting, they can stop you from participating in and enjoying life fully. I can help give you the skills to help you break free from these limiting narratives and finding greater confidence in yourself.

Anxious thoughts and difficult life experiences can cause us to doubt ourselves and the people we want to trust. Navigating relationships, whether they be romantic, friendships, work-related, or family, can create immense stress and anxiety. Life experiences may bring us pain, cause us to question our world, and create obstacles that feel overwhelming and overpowering. Together, we will come to a greater understanding of your inner struggles and needs and develop tools.

I wish I could change this to "self-compassion". Every challenge we experience, I would argue, can come right back to how we were taught to feel about ourselves in childhood. Attachment wounds, trauma, mental illness etc. all have deep seeded roots in our sense of self. True healing comes from learning to love the parts of yourself that you've been taught to exile. Phrases like "inner child", "reparenting", "shadow work", all fall under this category. This is the deepest work you will do!

Having confidence in one's own abilities develops over time. There is a cyclical nature to setting and enforcing boundaries (including saying "No"), advocating your needs, being kind with oneself, and pursuing and achieving goals that both helps develop self-esteem as well as maintain and increase it. As with many things in life, this takes risk, but you don't have to do it alone. I can help support you through this process.

What is one's inherent value and how does one make meaning out of that? Answering these questions is the start of formulate an authentic self-identity that can be fully lived moving forward in the world.

So many of us live in a constant state of disconnection. Disconnection from ourselves, from those around us, disconnection from our joy. So many of us are carrying around stories that were passed down to us from our families of origin, society, friends, and social media, all of which can overshadow how we feel about ourselves and the value we believe we hold. These old beliefs limit our ability to recognize our worthiness.

I have struggled with self-esteem issues my whole life. Because of that, I feel I am equipped with the necessary experience to truly understand and help individuals grappling with this issue.

If you are reading this, you have already done so much work already towards loving yourself, and I am proud of you. There are a lot of voices out there with many reasons why you should hate yourself, but the fact that you are actively looking for support in this area means the hold of those other voices is already starting to crack. Congratulations, you are at the beginning of a beautiful journey.

I have extensive experience helping clients improve boundaries and self worth. I believe healthy boundaries allow us to live freer, less burdened lives, improve confidence and lead to closer, healthier relationships. Often what gets in my clients' way of having good boundaries is the belief that their needs are less important than others. My work with clients centers around changing limiting self beliefs and understanding how attachment with caretakers early in life impacts self esteem today.

We often use self-esteem to describe a feeling of confidence and security in ourselves. A solid sense of self-esteem can be one of the most powerful things that we can build for ourselves; yet, sometimes it can feel as fleeting as our mood. Instead of this superficial sense of confidence, let's create a deeply grounded sense of "self" that is authentic, purposeful, and resilient, irregardless of your environment or others around you. This may be the biggest gift you can give to yourself.

I treat issues of poor self-esteem by focusing on the individual's relationship with the self, using an integrative approach. This includes parts work like Internal Family Systems (IFS) to explore inner dynamics, alongside psychodynamic and attachment theories to understand underlying emotional patterns. I also draw on post-modern, narrative theories to empower clients, helping them reframe self-perception and build a more confident and compassionate relationship with themselves.

Many of us struggle with our self-esteem. We often have negative self talk and see ourselves as imperfect. I believe that most healing starts with forgiving and accepting yourself as a perfectly imperfect human being. You are worthy of love, respect and care just as you are, right now. My clients have benefitted from my ability to help them make peace with their inner self. I create a calm, relaxed environment where they can be safe to express themselves honestly.

To me, your self-esteem is solid when you can honestly acknowledge your own mistakes and shortcomings without collapsing into shame. When you can recognize and accept your own imperfection, you are half-way there. The next step is bolstering your self-respect so that you can carry yourself as someone deserving of respect, including from yourself.

When clients come wanting to work on self esteem, I like to help them explore how they view themselves. I think it's important to develop self awareness and a kind inner voice. We can be so critical of ourselves and fail to recognize the things that we are doing really well. In session, I help clients explore the beliefs they have and to determine steps they can take to increase their confidence.

I believe strongly that being healthy means believing in yourself and having a positive image and identity.

How you view yourself, impacts how you view your world and your relationships. In our work, I aim to uncover the root causes of your self-doubt and work to challenge and reframe these negative thought patterns to guide you towards a place of self-acceptance, confidence, and inner strength. I believe that anyone can cultivate a deep sense of self-esteem and self-worth that allows them to navigate life's challenges with resiliency, authenticity, and a renewed sense of purpose.

So many of us live in a constant state of disconnection. Disconnection from ourselves, from those around us, disconnection from our joy. So many of us are carrying around stories that were passed down to us from our families of origin, society, friends, and social media, all of which can overshadow how we feel about ourselves and the value we believe we hold. These old beliefs limit our ability to recognize our worthiness.